6 Essential Tips To Writing A Better Online DatingProfile By David Wygant

Over the ten years I've been coaching men and women, Ihave been coaching people in all facets of dating. This includes coachingpeople in how to date Online . . . I've been teaching people how to date Onlinesince it began.

I have always believed that you need a balance betweenmeeting people Online and meeting people "offline," because nothingis ever going to work 100% of the time. You need to learn how to be really goodat both Online and offline dating.

What I've learned and realized about Online dating isthat to be truly successful, it is essential to be able to write an amazingprofile.

Most men have no idea how to write a good profile. Theywrite a profile from a guy's point of view. When a woman reads a profile likethis, it actually does nothing to make her want to contact him.

You need to bring your dynamic personality into yourOnline profile.

Instead of just writing "I'm an accountant and Ilove what I do," be more dynamic and say something like "I havealways loved crunching numbers, but I do it creatively so no one gets introuble with the IRS."

Online and offline are exactly the same – you need to befun and flirtatious in both situations. You know when you ask someone what theydo for a living and they answer with "I'm a lawyer" or "I'm anaccountant." Where do you go from there? If you instead answer thatquestion by saying "I creatively massage numbers so my clients don't getin trouble with the IRS," it leads to a more engaging follow-upconversation.

When writing your profile, think about everything you'rewriting like a conversation. If the "conversation" you're writingwould be interesting in person, then you've done a good job of profile writing.

If not . . . then you need to keep re-writing yourprofile.

Your Online dating profile is as important as putting upgood pictures. Women want to be able to get excited about contacting you.

If you're just throwing up some information and expectingwomen to respond to your profile, you will fail in Online dating.

Online dating is extremely competitive. The men who havethe best profiles are the men who consistently get dates. The men who know howto write clever emails to get a woman's attention will consistently get thedates.

With that in mind, here are my six essential keys towriting a winning profile:

1. Your profile must create emotions. Instead of writing"I love to travel and see new places," try writing it this way:"Traveling is my passion. Whenever I take a trip to another country, Ilearn something new about myself and I appreciate my life even more. When I wasin Thailand checking out the Buddhist temples, I was able to not only seehistory but feel history." What this does to a woman reading this profile,is create an emotional attachment.

When you write about your love of travel as a story, shecan picture visiting Thailand or traveling with you. If you just describesomething by putting it in a list, you're not going to create an emotionalattachment for her. Women are emotional beings, and they are the ones who willbe reading your profile. So learn to create stories when describing yourpassions.

2. Don't say in your profile that "My friends sayI'm a wonderful person." I've seen men do that countless times. You don'tlet women know you're great by telling them that your friends think you'regreat. This doesn't tell a woman anything. She doesn't know who your friendsare, so you are better to talk about things you love to do.

This allows women who read your profile to think you'regreat . . .

which is your objective.

For instance, a client of mine volunteers at a homelessshelter once a week. So in his profile he wrote "My Saturdays are myfavorite day of the week. I volunteer at the local homeless shelter and spendthree hours helping others feel better about themselves." Something likethis shows a woman what type of person you are . . . and that is what she wantsto see.

3. Don't tell women in your profile that you're funny –show them WHY you're funny. For instance, I live in Los Angeles and I hat thetraffic there. So, in my Online profile, I wrote: "Just when you thinkyou've seen everything in LA, you get on the 405 and see someone driving 80 mphtexting and plucking their eyebrows at the same time.

Now that's something I need to learn!"

What you're doing is making fun of yourself and making ajoke. As a guy, you don't pluck your eyebrows . . . you may text, but you don'tpluck. Women are attracted to humor. So get a woman to laugh when she readsyour profile, because your profile should get her to feel like she's flirtingwith you in her head.

4. Never say in your Online profile how confident andsuccessful you are. Women hate men who brag about themselves. It actually turnsthem OFF. They are, however, extremely attracted to very confident men. Soinstead of bragging about yourself, say something like this: "I've workedreally hard in my life to become who I am. Every time I've fallen down, I'vedusted myself off, checked out my wounds, gotten up and tried again. Beingsuccessful to me means having the freedom to do what I want . . . which ofcourse is having time to hang out with you." By saying something likethat, you're telling a woman that you're successful but humble. You're alsothrowing a little bit of humor in there which also helps.

5. As for photos on your profile, they MUST be clear, upclose, and recent. Women need to see your eyes, so it's really important thatyou are not wearing sunglasses in most (if not all) of your photos. It is alsoessential that you choose pictures that show your face and your body, so womencan see what you look like overall.

Your pictures are part of what makes or can ruin a goodprofile. Your pictures should also help to create a feeling of emotion inside awoman. Don't put up pictures on your profile of you and your buddies drinkingor any picture where you can't see your eyes.

Stay away from pictures of you and your buddies drinking.Women are not looking to hang out with a frat boy. They don't want to hang outevery Friday night in a bar sucking down shots with you and your buddies.Instead, why not put up a picture of you volunteering, or how about a funnypicture of you cooking for a dinner party?

Put up pictures that show that you have interests inactivities other than alcohol consumption. A woman wants to know you are funand social, but she also wants to be able to picture having a good time withyou. Choosing a picture of you biking in Italy, therefore, meets this desireand will create emotion in women.

Women are not looking for a partner in crime on a barstool . . . they are looking for a partner in crime in life. Those drunkenpictures will turn women off, not turn them on. Women want a man . . . not amanboy. So look through all your pictures and select ones that will paint apicture of who you are as a person. This includes putting up photos of you indifferent life situations.

For instance, you may put up one picture of you inbusiness attire, one picture of you in play mode, and one picture of you withyour dog.

Also, try to include clear photos that show youparticipating in your favorite activities, such as hiking, biking or playing tennis.Just make sure not to select "distance shots" showing you at the topof the mountain but in which you are too small to see clearly. Use only closeup shots here so women are able to see YOU.

Your pictures should show women all the different sides ofyou, and the pictures of you that you put up on your profile should representwho you are at this stage in your life. So what I suggest is that you have afriend of yours take some new photos of you. If you write a fantastic profile,but your pictures don't match, a woman will be disappointed when she meets you.

6. Be honest in your profile! A lot of men will massagethe truth in their profile. The major problem that occurs when men are lessthan honest occurs after you've gone out on a date with a woman. She will goback after the date and re-read your profile to see if there are anydiscrepancies. It's almost like she is looking to see if you're as real as youappear to be. So make sure everything you write in your profile is totallyrepresentative of who you are right now in your life.

Your profile is designed to help women form an opinionabout you.

Written correctly, your profile will entice her tocontact you immediately. Women re-read profiles over and over again becausethey want to get to know who you are and they want to get excited about meetingyou. The more you put in your profile that expresses your personality, theeasier it is for a woman to decide to email you because she'll have a betteridea of what to talk about with you.

If you ever look at the women who have viewed you, youare looking at women who will contact you, email you and who will read yourprofile over and over again – even after she meets you. That's why being honestin your profile is so very important.

Online dating is very competitive. In order to stand outamongst the sea of men who are Online, you need to invest the time necessary tocreate a great profile.

While a great profile is essential to successfully datingOnline, it is also only one piece of the equation. Another day I'm going towrite a piece that will give you five fantastic ways to grab her attention inthe very first email.